…needs to prove itself to anyone!
Yesterday was a virtual duvet day for the blog. Yes, it’s an amusing idea but I had a serious point to make. I’d had a busy weekend out of my comfort zone and with little sleep. I was tired and I needed a day off. I like to put a lot of thought into my blogs; give them some meaning. But it takes time and effort, and I was seriously lacking in the motivation department earlier this week. Which is when I realised I didn’t need to spend an hour thinking, writing and illustrating a blog just because I feel it’s “expected” of me. Who was I trying to prove a point to?
When you write/work/get out of bed/go to school/fill your day, are you doing it for yourself or to prove a point to someone else?
When you push yourself to go further than you’re physically or mentally capable of, who are you trying to impress?
I’ve picked up on a general theme from reading blogs and chatting with friends this week: we all like to prove we’re capable of doing something, be it writing 2000 words every day, coming up with witty comments for our blog every day, editing seventeen chapters a day, taking on more work, volunteering for the school parent council, or some other such thing.
Now, I’m the first to advocate getting yourself out of bed and DOING something to make yourself feel better on a down day. But you have to do it for yourself.
It’s OK to take a day off. It’s OK to take a break from writing while you figure out the details of your next few chapters. It’s OK to spend a day doing nothing but recharging your batteries. It’s OK to tell your boss that you can’t actually manage that extra piece of work he’d like you to do. It’s OK to take a break from parenting before you strangle the little darlings for fighting over the Barbies.
If you’re more concerned about what other people will think of you for “failing”, STOP. You can’t control what other people think so stop trying! They’ll think what they think; they might actually think more of you for asking for time out. And even if they don’t? It doesn’t matter; YOU matter. Do what you need to do for yourself and then decide if it’s vitally important you do more.
You don’t have to prove anything to anyone.
Just remember that when you’re half-trying-to-kill-yourself to complete the article for the school newsletter that you volunteered to write…