…to new experiences!
I don’t mean, strip off and streak down your local High Street.
I mean try something new. Be it driving to a different town for your shopping, heading out for a walk in the countryside, somewhere you’ve never been but have heard is really nice, ride a rollercoaster, or take up that new hobby you’ve always fancied.
Everyone gets scared to a certain extent by “new”. We all prefer to stick with “safe, tried and trusted”. But how much are you limiting your life by doing so? Is fear of failure stopping you?
If, like me, you have BPD, doing something new is a scary, scary, SCARY prospect. All the negative emotions are exaggerated to the point of overwhelming. Even trying something different for breakfast can be a challenge! Riding a rollercoaster – no thank you. There’s something about not being in control of my own movement that frightens the life out of me; I like to have my feet firmly on the ground! I tried a flume at the swimming pool a couple of months ago; my first time ever. The experience won’t be repeated (Lovely Boyfriend pulled me up out of the water, coughing and spluttering) but at least I tried it.
Last week, I drove to a town I don’t know at all, in order to find their Asda store. I got lost. Several times. I probably spent longer driving around town than I did commuting (and it’s 15 miles or so!).
My Wonderful Psychologist set me up with all sorts of exposure excercises over the years. I hated her for it at the time, but I’m grateful now. At least now I can telephone for a takeaway without succumbing to a near-panic attack. And I’ve learnt this valuable lesson:
The fear of doing something is generally worse than the anxiety you’ll experience if you just get on and do it.
So, with that in mind, I’m about to learn how to ride a bicycle…