My car had it’s MOT this week. It passed; so why, when driving LovelyBoyfriend to the airport yesterday, was it making a horrible rattling noise? And why, after LB fixed the horrible rattling noise before his flight, did it then proceed to make some rather alarming squeaking/grating noises every now and again on the way home?
I have a “Pass” MOT certificate, so my car is roadworthy. It’s not going to career out of control on me. A certified car mechanic says so.
Life’s a bit like that.
Perhaps your family are telling you that you’re fit to work. Your friends say it’s all in your head and there’s nothing actually wrong with you. Perhaps you’re looking in the mirror and it’s telling you you’ve failed. You need to lose another 3 stone before you’re fit for the road.
Life is full of people judging whether you’re a “pass” or “fail”. Sometimes (most times), the harshest judge is yourself. I can look in the mirror and cringe. I’d planned on toning up one hell of a lot more in time for my holiday next month. But I didn’t make the time. Does that make me failure?
And why’s that? Because I say so. Yes, I’d have liked to have done a bit more but, do you know what? It’s not the be all and end all. I’m not going to label myself as a “fail” because I was too busy getting on with other stuff. If I label myself as a failure, I’m going to start feeling like a failure and I’m anything but. I just didn’t do something I could have.
Stop labelling yourself as a failure because of things you do and don’t do. 9 times out of 10, the only person who thinks you’re a failure is yourself. Believe it or not (and I want you to try and believe it), most other people are too bothered with their own lives to care about yours. People are not watching your every move, waiting for something to slip so they can mock and jeer.
And if they are? Sod them. Who are they to judge you? You’re the only person who can say if you’re making a go of your life. You’re the only person entitled to say whether you’ve passed or failed at something. Start setting your own standards and start feeling better about what you choose to do with your life.