…take a compliment.
I haven’t had one of my lists for a while so here we go: A List Describing What Happens When Someone Compliments You.
1. Someone thinks something nice about you (which they’re perfectly entitled to do; you have no control over anybody’s thoughts but your own).
2. The someone puts their thoughts into words and says the nice thing.
3. You react.
If you’ll notice, #3 is the only step YOU actually have any control over. And that’s the step so many of us have problems with.
Lovely Boyfriend pays me many compliments (even more now I’ve developed a love of motorbikes!). I’ve always been of the “brush it off, he can’t actually mean it” school…except Lovely Boyfriend doesn’t lie. He genuinely thinks what he thinks.
So where does that leave me? Flustered, embarrassed and generally wrong-footed! Except, not so much lately.
This is step #3, the only one I have any say over. I have a choice to make. Feel crap and somehow force myself to believe Lovely Boyfriend is lying, or be happy that he thinks nice things about me.
If we didn’t have mental health issues/self-image difficulties etc, wouldn’t the choice be obvious?