…or does it?
Before I get started, I want to make it clear that this post isn’t aimed at anyone in particular. It’s a common experience and I’m not lecturing, merely commenting and suggesting from my own experiences.
How many of you have thought the world was conspiring against you? *puts own hand up* Everything’s going better than expected and then, WHAM! Someone says something or something happens to make you feel a million times worse. Again.
The world hates you, right?
Wrong. It’s all a matter of perspective and learning to phrase things in a less hurtful manner.
The world can’t hate you; it has no emotions.
“Nobody likes me”; blatantly untrue. Family, friends, the bloke/woman who smiles at you on the bus?
“I don’t have any friends”; maybe you don’t think of your office companion as a friend but I bet they do.
“Everybody hates me”; even the man in the sandwich shop? Why should he?
The most hurtful words are the ones we tell ourselves because they’re so deeply personal. It’s not easy, but we all have to learn to look at what we say, pick truer words and cut out the exaggerations and downright lies.
Sometimes people don’t like us. Sometimes people do want to upset us. It doesn’t mean the world hates you, just that someone else in it is feeling sh*t about themselves and is taking it out on you. Or, possibly, they just don’t like you; it happens.
As I keep saying to The Porglets, it’s entirely up to you if you choose to get upset about something. For those of us with BPD, chronic depression etc, we have less control but we still have some. It’s not easy, believe me I know! Rational thought goes out the window so quickly once our emotions get fired up…but with practise, you can get to be more mindful of your emotions and face them down before they overwhelm you. You’ll still feel upset but it won’t consume you.
“The world has it in for me” is an extreme, negative viewpoint of a series of events in your life. Your life. How you live is your choice and within your control, however much you don’t believe that (and I believed that lie for years).
Turn it around and start liking yourself because you’re your own worst enemy. Find the positives and start running your own life instead of letting other people dictate how you’re going to feel. They all hate you, remember?!